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Consent & Community Culture

Consent & Community Culture

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Community Safety Principles

Safety at Pyraegea is everyone's responsibility — physical safety on the water, care for each other's emotional wellbeing, and respect for personal boundaries. There's no safety team that manages this for you. We look out for each other.

What is Consent?

A useful way to remember the key elements of consent is the FRIES acronym:

  • Freely given — without pressure, manipulation, or coercion
  • Reversible — anyone can change their mind at any time
  • Informed — all parties understand what they're agreeing to
  • Enthusiastic — look for active, genuine agreement, not just the absence of "no"
  • Specific — saying yes to one thing doesn't mean yes to everything
  • Clear, enthusiastic agreement
  • Freely given without pressure
  • Specific to each situation
  • Reversible at any time
  • Required for all interactions
  • Physical touch (hugs, dancing, etc.)
  • Taking photos or videos
  • Entering someone's personal space
  • Sharing someone's information
  • Using someone's belongings

Good practices:

  • "May I give you a hug?"
  • "Is it okay if I take your photo?"
  • "Can I join you?"
  • "Are you comfortable with...?"

Respect the answer:

  • "No" means no
  • "Maybe" means no
  • Silence means no
  • Only "yes" means yes

You can change your mind at any time, say no without explanation, and ask someone to stop at any moment. If someone says no — respect it immediately, don't pressure them, and move on gracefully. For a deeper framework on giving and receiving, see the Wheel of Consent.

Consent is breached when there is coercion (physical, emotional, or psychological pressure), impairment (intoxication or unconsciousness), deception (deliberate lies about material facts), or withdrawal ignored (continuing after consent has been revoked). Deliberately misleading someone — about identity, relationship status, sexual health, or intentions — undermines their autonomy and may invalidate consent under law.

The Istanbul Convention (Council of Europe Convention on Preventing and Combating Violence Against Women and Domestic Violence) provides an international legal framework emphasizing consent:

  • Article 36 states that all non-consensual acts of a sexual nature must be criminalized.
  • Consent must be freely given, and any act obtained without it qualifies as sexual violence or rape.

Greece and the Istanbul Convention:

Greece ratified the Istanbul Convention in 2018 and has incorporated its principles into its national legal framework. Under Greek law, consent must be freely given:

  • Article 336 of the Greek Penal Code criminalizes sexual acts committed without consent, even when coercion or force is not present.

Physical Safety, Medical & Emergency Procedures

For boat safety, swimming guidelines, marine environment (LNT on water), medical considerations, and emergency procedures, see Safety on the Water.

Substance Use and Harm Reduction

Never use alcohol or other substances while actively sailing or on watch. Greece has strict drug laws — your captain's rules apply on board. Don't pressure others, and don't be a burden to your crew.

If someone is having a difficult experience: stay calm, move them to a quiet space, keep them hydrated with water, don't leave them alone, and contact your boat captain. For in-depth harm reduction guidance, see Zendo Project and DanceSafe in the resources section.

Sanctuary / Safe-Space Boat

In past years, participants have offered a sanctuary boat — a quiet, calm space where anyone can go to decompress, rest, or get away from stimulation. In 2023, a "chill boat" offered massages, Thera-guns, and quiet space with licensed therapists.

If your crew would like to offer a sanctuary or safe-space boat at Pyraegea, consider:

  • A calm, low-stimulation environment
  • Trained or experienced crew (yoga, somatic therapy, etc.)
  • Clear signaling so people know it's available
  • It's entirely voluntary — each boat's crew and captain decide what they want to offer

If Something Goes Wrong

Immediate safety:

  • Remove yourself from unsafe situations
  • Seek help from trusted people
  • Contact your boat captain or the consent team
  • Use the incident report form if needed

Support:

  • Talk to your captain, a crewmate, or the consent team
  • Confidentiality will be respected
  • You won't be judged for coming forward

Incident Reporting

A Consent/Safety Incident Report Form is available.

You can report:

  • Consent violations
  • Safety concerns
  • Harassment or inappropriate behavior
  • Medical incidents
  • Any situation that made you feel unsafe

The form:

  • Can be submitted anonymously
  • Is reviewed by designated community members
  • Leads to appropriate action
  • Helps improve future events
  • Is treated confidentially.

The form link is shared in Telegram before each event (e.g., 2025 Incident Report Form).

Who to contact: your boat captain (first point of contact), trusted crew members, Pyraegea core organizers, or designated safety coordinators.

Conflict Resolution

Address concerns early — speak directly with the person if comfortable, use "I" statements ("I felt..." not "You did..."), and focus on behaviour, not character. If direct communication doesn't work, involve your captain, ask a neutral third party to mediate, or use the incident report form.

NVC Workshops

Skippers and crews are encouraged to run a short NVC session on day one or two. At least one boat has done this and found it meaningfully improved crew dynamics. Even a 30-minute facilitated conversation about communication styles makes a real difference in a confined crew. See Center for Non-violent Communication and Bed Talks.

Boundaries and Personal Space on Boats

Respect personal sleeping areas, privacy in heads/bathrooms, quiet hours, personal belongings, and the need for alone time. Communicate your needs and boundaries clearly — when you need space, if something bothers you, and what your comfort levels are.

Photography and Social Media

Always ask before:

  • Taking someone's photo
  • Posting photos online
  • Tagging people
  • Sharing location information

Respect:

  • People who don't want to be photographed
  • Requests to delete photos
  • Privacy in sensitive moments
  • Cultural or personal reasons for declining

Blurring or masking people does not evade consent:

People can be identified in many ways beyond their face; by their body, tattoos, clothing, boat, or the location itself. If someone hasn't consented to being in a photo or video, obscuring their face and or body doesn't make it okay to post.

Drone and Aerial Footage

Drones deserve special attention because of their range and the involuntary nature of aerial capture.

Consent applies regardless of nudity. The idea of a "non-nude drone hour" — where drones fly freely as long as people are clothed — was explicitly discussed and rejected by the Pyraegea community. Some participants are not comfortable being filmed or photographed regardless of their state of dress. A person being filmed without their knowledge while sunbathing in a swimsuit is just as much a consent issue as any other unsolicited capture.

Drone operators must:

  • Seek consent from all people who will be in frame before flying — the same standard as any other photography
  • Not assume that being clothed means someone is comfortable being recorded
  • Respect requests not to fly over specific areas or boats
  • Be especially mindful around anchorages where people have limited ability to move away from an unwanted camera

The community norm is that footage requires consent, full stop. If you're unsure whether someone wants to be filmed, ask.

Social Media Guidelines

Be mindful:

  • Don't share others' personal information
  • Respect people's privacy
  • Consider the impact of your posts
  • Follow "what happens at Pyraegea..." etiquette
  • Don't post compromising photos of others
  • With the rise of AI, even innocent photos might end up being used in ways you don't expect — think twice before you post.

Inclusivity and Respect

Radical Inclusion

If you're here, you belong here. Pyraegea doesn't maintain a welcome list — the principle is that anyone can come, and everyone who shows up is a full participant, not a guest.

That means the community you arrive in is the one you help shape. It works because people take responsibility for how they treat each other.

What we don't tolerate:

  • Discrimination or prejudice
  • Harassment or bullying
  • Unwanted sexual advances
  • Hate speech
  • Exclusionary behavior

If You Get It Wrong

Nobody navigates social dynamics perfectly. If you make a mistake — an assumption, an insensitive comment, crossing a line you didn't see:

  • Apologize without turning it into an explanation of your intentions
  • Listen to the impact before defending the intent
  • Do better going forward

Resources and Support

Who to Contact

  • Boat captains (first point of contact)
  • Core organizers
  • Consent team co-leads (announced in Telegram before each event)
  • Fellow participants
  • Incident report form

For emergency contacts and emergency procedures, see Safety on the Water.

Consent:

  • 11th Principle Consent — consent culture resources from the Burning Man community (on hiatus, but all materials remain available under Creative Commons)
  • Bed Talks — workshops and education on consent and communication (Burning Man Emergency Services)
  • Dusty Consent / Nowhere — multilingual consent resources (EN/ES/FR/DE) from the Nowhere burn in Spain, including workshop guides and printable posters
  • Wheel of Consent (Dr. Betty Martin) — a deeper model of consent exploring giving, receiving, taking, and allowing — good for facilitated crew conversations
  • Pyraegea Consent Wiki — Pyraegea-specific consent documentation

Harm Reduction:

  • Zendo Project — psychedelic harm reduction resources (official Burning Man harm reduction program)
  • DanceSafe — substance safety information and resources for festival/event settings